Fertility and adoption
PACT is one of the largest adoption charities in England and was rated as Outstanding by Ofsted in 2014 and 2017. We recruit, prepare, approve and support adoptive parents to create loving, safe and secure homes for children waiting in care.
PACT has extensive experience of helping to create families with people who have explored alternative routes to parenthood first. We understand that many people also explore fertility treatments, surrogacy, sperm or egg donations as a way of having children.
For some people they would like to look at all of their options and approach PACT for information to include adoption in their considerations very early on. For others they think about completing their family through adoption once they have investigated other avenues. Our enquiries team are happy to discuss what adoption may mean for you and answer any questions you may have, at any stage in your thinking, and help you clarify adoption as a possible route for you.
From our experienced enquiries team to our committed social workers to our dedicated family finding team our staff understand that these conversations are highly personal, unique to each person and sensitive. Adopters often feedback that they were reassured to speak with our staff who acknowledge challenges around fertility can be very difficult, and if treatments are not successful, very sad.
Coming to terms with other options closing as possibilities can take time. PACT, like many other adoption agencies, recommends people allow six months after the last treatment or fertility counselling before embarking on the adoption process. This is to give time to the healing process and for people to gently look after their own wellbeing and process the loss they may experience. The adoption process is robust and requires a level of commitment and focus and we believe that for many, the transition from other routes to adoption is easier with this time period in place for people to take a pause for themselves.
However, we understand that each person is different so please do speak with our enquiries team about your circumstances and they can advise and help you navigate what may be right for you.
PACT is here to talk to you about adoption, whenever you are ready, and we will work alongside you, at your pace. You can speak with our enquiries team, attend a free information event or ask to speak with one of our adopters.
We recommend that you download our Guide to Adoption as a first step and then come to one of our free infomation events. We welcome enquiries from people living within a 50 mile radius of each of our locations in Reading, Oxford, London and Brighton; you can see a map of the areas we cover here. You can contact our friendly Enquiries Team by filling in our enquiry form or calling 0300 456 4800.
Adopters Emily and Ben began their adoption journey with PACT after one failed round of IVF and a subsequent round which unfortunately ended in miscarriage. Their gorgeous daughter, Dotty-Rose, came home to live with them in 2020.
Speaking about why they considered adopter after IVF, Emily said,
"We just didn’t want to wait any longer to start our family; we knew from experience that biological connection is in no way essential for strong and loving familial relationships to flourish. We decided to give ourselves some time to recover emotionally from the IVF process so we could start our adoption journey the following year.”
Ruth and her husband Oli adopted their daughter in 2018 after many unsuccessful cycles of IVF and a miscarriage. They said meeting their daughter for the first time was one of the best moments of their life:
"We hardly slept the night before. As soon as we saw her little face, she became the love of our lives."
You can read their story here, which was featured in The Sun's Fabulous magazine.
PACT attends The Fertility Show each year to speak to attendees about adoption as an alternative path to parenthood.
Below are some more stories from people who adopted through PACT after exploring other options:
|Emma and Fahmi adopted their son after having a birth child||Tam and Katrina are a lesbian couple who adopted two boys|
|Marcia and Ian adopted two sisters of Carribean heritage||Mark and Laurence adopted after seeing PACT at the Fertility Show|